Dedication

The past couple of weeks of my life have been quite a whirlwind that has come with a lot of change and excitement. This year has been so strange for me on many different levels with no real plan or way to know what was possibly going to happen. As always, I was throwing things to the wall and hoping that they would stick. Summer is always fairly quiet when it comes to auditioning, but I got called in for a company that was looking to work with me on a show in the Spring that I couldn’t do that now had a show that would tour all around Houston, Texas for the fall.

Welp, I ended up booking it and here I am in Houston in a beautiful air bnb! Over these past 2 weeks I have learned a musical in its entirety, staged it all, got someone to sublet my room for 2 months, informed my job and trained a new sitter, and prepared myself to be completely immersed in rehearsals and performances almost everyday for the next 2 months. I am super excited to be apart of this and also just so happy to be performing everyday. Being able to say I love what I do and it’s my daily job is really priceless. I’m a happy sponge ūüôā

While I am here, I am going to try to focus in on a couple of things in my downtime. A year and a half ago, I was away doing a show and my castmate was so extremely dedicated to her work in her time off that it would constantly leave me wondering what she was up to. Is there really that much work to be done? Am I slacking? How do I get started? What is she even doing?!

The truth was, I WAS slacking. I didn’t have a laptop yet, was unsure of certain steps that I needed to take, and was too focused on a guy that ultimately was not good for me or my mental health. I honestly would not take any of it back, because now I am far more grounded in who I am, focused, and ready to go. I feel healthy, happy, motivated, and very lucky to be here and although I definitely plan to socialize and explore, I will also be keeping her work ethic in mind to accomplish the things that I want to do before this year comes to a close. (How the hell is it even possible that there are only 3 months until New Years Day?!)

So here are some things that I want to accomplish while I am here and I have already started to do so!

Save money, eat healthy/exercise at least 4 times a week (I started a fitness Instagram with Ruby to stay on track!), work on my website, schedule a photo session for when I am back, plan my trip to Norway, plan another trip before that, figure out student loan payments, read all of the books that I brought, write everyday, watch important shows and movies, bulk up on knowledge of theater’s I would like to work with.

Life is sweet. I’m excited.

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My 25 at 25

So I was recently looking over the past couple of months in my journal and right before my birthday in August, I made a list of the top 25 things that I have really learned in my 25 years that I thought I would share! So here we go!

  1. Do it and it’s done.

2.”Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail bigger.”

3. Change is inevitable, good and bad.

4. Not everything is as black and white as it seems.

5. Even when you just want to give up, don’t. You can never give up hope or belief in ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†yourself.

6. The universe is a friendly place that wants to see you succeed.

7. Do what you want to do. (But not at the expense of someone else’s well being or ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†feelings)

8. Worrying is useless and only causes stress.

9. WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK?

10. Stay in your own lane. Success is yours.

11. Always get up, even when it hurts most.

12. Always be kind.

13. Don’t take things personally.

14. Enjoy the journey, even if it sucks.

15. Travel as much as possible.

16. Take risks and be a yes-man for a while. (Use your best judgment).

17. People see things the way they want to and that’s not your business.

18. Always take time out for family and friends.

19. Experience as much as possible.

20. Let go of things that no longer serve you.

21. Always trust that things will fall into place. (Because they always do).

22. Take care of yourself. (Mentally, physically, emotionally).

23. Face problems head on.

24. You are more valuable than your headshot/resume, job, position, etc.

25. Trust yourself; your heart, your drive, your mind. Beat out the thoughts that turn               you against yourself. Remember, our brains are wired to stop us in uncomfortable             situations. Fight for yourself. You will succeed greatly.

 

Life Lessons

As I get closer to my 25th birthday (it’s in August and I am just excited, okay?!) , I can’t help but feel that there is something extremely great on the horizon. I feel empowered and happier than ever and am so grateful for the opportunities I have had placed before me and the ones to come.

Recently, I have gone through a lot of changes. 24 was definitely a year of growth in many ways, even though sometimes it felt like pure hell. But the thing is, I have always been fortunate enough to have a guiding voice and hand in this life, even at the darkest hours. The voice has helped me to be self aware and to know what I need to do to get to where I want to be.

I was very down on myself for the past couple of months because I was going through a really rough time in my relationship and it was messing with my emotions more than I had ever experienced before. Because of that, the voice got very quiet. I felt weak and like I had lost my vibrancy, and I felt a lot less confident because everything to do with my relationship was playing on my mind constantly. Even if things were getting better, it wouldn’t take away the things that had happened and the way that I felt. I seriously believed that there was something wrong with me, that I have overreacted and that it would all disappear. I tried to move forward and was always genuinely honest about the way that I was feeling, thinking that that communication would free my mind from the constant emotional turmoil of things that had really left a harsh impact on me. But the truth is that deep down, I knew a part of me was not being true to myself, and there’s the rub.

Needless to say, despite my love for my boyfriend, I had to end things. It’s weird because all through my life I had never understood when people would say that their relationship had failed but they both still loved each other regardless of their differences and no longer being together. I had always thought that they would be able to get through it, because…well because LOVE! If you love someone, then you work hard to make things work when they get fuzzy or difficult. It just made the most sense in my mind until this experience. ¬†Things are not always black and white and that sometimes only becomes evident through your own experiences.

So here are some lessons that I have learned over the past 24 years. Hopefully they speak to you and can help you to know that things will actually always be okay, no matter what occurs.

  1. Recognize that your emotions of negativity are valid, but do not cling to them for long at all. They do not define you. Learn to detach and move forward.
  2. Go through life with a sense of empathy and kindness. Everyone is going through something and it is easy to judge, but make the effort not to. Help and be there along the way.
  3. Surround yourself with people who make you happy and people who motivate you to be better.
  4. Go to new places and experience the world. It helps you to grow and be happier as well as de-clutter your mind.
  5. Let go of other peoples expectations of what you should be doing and think about what you want and how you will achieve it without comparing yourself to others.
  6. Take breaks from social media. It is a way to stop comparing your journey to someone else’s and to stop stalking people. Really. Social media has reached a new low in making sure you can see when someone is active, where they are and who they are with. This is borderline stalking, people.
  7. Be more decisive. Don’t let other people make decisions for you.
  8. Form your own opinions and do things that make you happy, without harming anyone else of course.
  9. Enjoy your youth! We only have one chance at being young. Take advantage and make plans to do the things we love! Don’t jump the gun or become overly anxious at the age of 21 that you are not at your peak of success. It will come. Just plant some seeds for now!
  10. Be more present.
  11. Follow your heart, but always be true to yourself. Relationship’s should NOT be difficult or strenuous on your mental and physical health. No matter what the other person is saying, if it is toxic you DO have the choice to end things, even if it might hurt for a bit.
  12. Start new hobbies!
  13. Don’t move too fast when starting a relationship. It can be exciting, but don’t make promises that you might not be able to keep in a years time.
  14. Your happiness is extremely important. You are too young to be miserable.
  15. You are amazing! Love your body, take care of it, expand your horizons without becoming overwhelmed. These things may take time for some, but make a conscious effort and make small habits that will stick with you throughout life and you will feel so much better. You have power over your life! ¬†Don’t let the bastards get you down ūüėČ